Set Backs and Breakthroughs

How can you escape when the past has such a hold over you?

It’s hard and it’s painful, but in the end it is worth it. For Joel and his mentor Dale, the signs of stress were all too familiar.

After having been a mentoring team for several years, Joel’s grades started slipping. He started missing meetings with Dale. When Dale got a message from Joel at the last minute that Joel would miss their third meeting in a row, he decided to investigate.

Dale was pretty sure that Joel was with his girlfriend. Circling the neighborhood, checking out Joel’s favorite spots led Dale to the dugout of the school ball field where he found them making out. Dale walked over and casually sat down next to them, surprising the couple. It was decision time for Joel. What would he choose? School or his girlfriend?

Rather than lecture Joel, in their next meeting Dale lead him through an exercise in dealing with distractions. As they discussed their distractions, Joel’s girlfriend was nowhere to be found. Joel was very reluctant to consider that his relationship with his girlfriend was a distraction. Dale tried to help Joel see how his choices would affect his future.

How do you move forward when people you care about don’t want you to change?

At first Joel refused to listen. Then about three weeks later Joel intentionally broke up with his girlfriend. She took it badly and diligently tried to get back together with him. It was a rough time for Joel. He was lonely without her. But Joel stayed firm with his decision to move on with his life.

On his own initiative Joel found, applied and got enrolled in a summer program at Sac State for criminal justice. Joel’s grades improved. He will graduate this semester and plans to attend Sac State in the fall.

About six months after Joel broke off his relationship with his girlfriend, Joel saw her at a school event and noticed that she was several months pregnant.

Joel realized that the baby could have been his if he had not made the choice to break up with her. He is grateful for the fatherly guidance he received from Dale, guidance that took his life in a better direction.

More boys like Joel are waiting for mentors. We need $50,000 by this Father’s Day to give 27 fatherless boys a chance at a new life. Donate Today.

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Living Life Together

Skiing in Tahoe, catching a Kings Game, shopping for back to school clothes. Normal, right? Something everybody does.

Well, no not everybody. Many fatherless boys in the Sacramento region are surviving day to day with few of the activities that most of us take for granted. These boys are more comfortable with drive by shootings than they are a trip to the mall.

That all changes when fatherless boys become part of the Shoulder to Shoulder program. Shoulder to Shoulder matches fatherless young men with male volunteers who act as mentors. They provide the connection to fatherhood that these young men have missed.

From the moment boys and mentors are matched they start living life together through special events, fun projects and school challenges. The Shoulder to Shoulder sponsored Freedom Hall offers success readiness workshops, Friday Nite Live, camping and hiking trips and other special outings and events.

“I started coming to Freedom Hall for the video games, but I kept coming for the information I was hearing that I never heard before. They taught me a new way of doing life.” – Semaj Horace, Freedom Hall Graduate, 2014

In another event, the ‘Great American Cardboard Boat Regatta,” boats were made by the boys from cardboard boxes and duct tape with minimal help from the mentors. Once completed, the boys and mentors went to the high school pool to give it a try. The boats were launched with one young man in each, armed with an oar. The goal was to see who could make the most laps across the width of the pool. It wasn’t long before the boats took on water and sunk. The winner made 10 laps. The next summer the boys had learned. When these boats were launched, the winner made almost 70 laps.

More memories are made together include visiting the California Maritime academy for a tour of the Golden Bear Training ship, enjoying Kings and River Cat games, motocross, and even turning “cowboy” at the Pro Bull Riding Tour.

We need $50,000 by this Father’s Day to give 27 fatherless boys a chance at a new life.

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It Takes A Village

We know that it takes more than a single parent to raise a child and the saying that “it takes a village” rings true more today than ever before. In our region, the number of fatherless homes has increased to more than 200,000, putting many our youth at a disadvantage. Statistics show that boys who grow up fatherless are more likely to wind up in jail or on the streets than those in two-parent homes.

But we can put an end to this debilitating cycle.

We, as one community, can have an impact that lasts generations. Help break the cycle on June 17 for the Legacy Challenge in downtown Sacramento at the State Capitol for a fun 5k Run/Walk. (not a timed event)

Join us as families and community leaders will honor men who serve as great fathers and mentors.

The cost is just $30 and will have a profound impact on Shoulder to Shoulder to be able to reach more at-risk youth in our neighborhoods.

Sign up with your family and friends today!

Richard Moore,

 

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A Joyful Connection

A fatherless boy. A new man in his life. Maybe for the first time. Anger, frustration, sadness and a spirit of fear is replaced by warmth, joy and a growing sense of acceptance and purpose. And Yes, just plain fun.

Shoulder to Shoulder matches fatherless boys with surrogate fathers called mentors to provide young men with the experience of growing up with a dad. It’s an experience none would likely have without the commitment made by the men willing to be mentors.

“At first I was reluctant to mentor because we were presented with a 6-year commitment with the possibility of helping your young man through college. Jeremiah and I have developed a relationship of trust, honesty, hope and a father/son-like love. I have seen the development of the character of a young man that I am proud to call my friend,” said a mentor.

STS needs your help to raise $50,000 to find and support mentors for 27 fatherless boys waiting for a chance at a new life. Can you help us?

The First Snow Fall

“The boys were on overnight trip to a camp in the mountains. It was winter and it had snowed. We have a picture of Raymond carrying a snowball the size of a cantaloupe. Carrying it with no gloves; carrying it as a prized possession. Having never seen snow, he was bound and determined to take it home to show his family and friends, most of whom had never seen snow either,” said a mentor.

Pride of Accomplishment

“I’d been to many graduations over the years and responded with the perfunctory hand clap and smile. This time it was different. I jumped up and down in my bleacher seat screaming and yelling with tears in my eyes. My boys were graduating: My boys that began our program in the 7th grade with an average GPA of ‘F’ or lower were graduating. All were above 2.75 some were above 3.0 and a couple were 3.8,” said a mentor.

Growing Together, Mentors Speak

As the boys grow from scared and hopeless children into young men of strength, character and accomplishment their mentors grow as well.

“I’ve grown so much with my own children, other people and my own relationships.”

“You see kids who think they have no hope. Their chins on their chest. You see them change. They stand up straight. They look you in the eye. You can see them change right in front of you. It’s very impactful.”

STS needs your help to raise $50,000 to find and support mentors for 27 fatherless boys waiting for a chance at a new life. Can you help us?

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27 Boys Need Fathers for Father’s Day

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STS Honors Founder Bill Coibion

Founder leaving nonprofit to focus on faith-based mission

Shoulder To Shoulder, one of few local nonprofits that addresses the fatherlessness in our communities, honors its founder Bill Coibion who has stepped away April 1, 2017, to pursue his passion to help men become all God wants them to be.

Coibion began with the Point Man Breakfast Series, which has reached over 25,000 men in our region. In 2004, Mr. Coibion launched the first transformational discipleship-based men’s ministry in the greater region as the Men’s Pastor at Adventure Christian Church. Then, in fall 2007, Bill began a long-term initiative to mentor generationally fatherless boys that enables them to become well-balanced, mature men in their family and community in the future.

“Leaving a legacy to the generations that follow is something we teach the young boys at Shoulder To Shoulder every day. There is no doubt that Bill is leaving his own legacy not only within the organization, but with hundreds of at-risk youth who are now living better lives because of Shoulder To Shoulder.” said Ron Crane, Board Chairman for Shoulder To Shoulder. “We are thrilled to ensure his legacy lives on with the annual William H. Coibion Jr. Award.”

To honor Coibion for all of the tremendous work he has put into the organization and surrounding communities, Shoulder To Shoulder has created the William H. Coibion, Jr. Award. The honor will be presented annually to an individual in our region who best embodies Coibion’s passion, dedication and commitment to uplifting at-risk youth.

“Bill has brought to light the devastating effects regarding fatherlessness and how it has impacted our communities. His relentless pursuit to address our region’s number one social challenge has made a real difference for hundreds of disadvantaged youth and their families,” said Dr. John Jackson, President of William Jessup University in Rocklin.

“Without Bill’s foresight and dedication over the past decades, Shoulder To Shoulder would not have made the impact it has in this community on the many young boys who are now on the path to success,” said Shoulder To Shoulder President Richard Moore. “His guidance and mentorship will be greatly missed by our staff and families.”

“I look forward to focusing my time and effort to encourage and equip men in our region to become Sons to our Heavenly Father that model the attributes of being a Godly husband, father and community servant.” said Coibion.

With gratitude,

Ronald G. Crane, Chairman

Richard A. Moore, President

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Come Out and Support the Cause!

Shoulder To Shoulder will host its 6th annual Legacy Bowl on Sunday, March 5, 1PM to 4:30PM at AMF Rocklin Lanes – 2325 Sierra Meadows Dr., Rocklin, with 20 teams for an afternoon of fun and fundraising to support STS mentoring programs.

Last year’s event was an afternoon full of inspiration, perspiration, family fun, and a time of honoring our amazing mentees. More than 200 people showed up for the festivities, and the Legacy Bowl event raised over $20,000 to benefit the many urban fatherless young boys and their families we serve.

We had a great time together. We heard stories of how lives have been changed through long-term one-on-one mentoring, and the impact our Moms Helping Moms program has on the moms and grandmothers who raise these precious young boys.

Thanks to your participation and generosity, Shoulder To Shoulder will continue to reach fatherless young boys, igniting hope and purpose in their lives, and equipping them for life.

Donate and Support the Cause

If you would like more information about this event or would like to make a financial contribution to help Strike Down Fatherlessness, please email info@teamsts.org or call (916) 285-5422. We look forward to seeing you there!

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Richard Moore Named President of Shoulder To Shoulder

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Richard to assume day-to-day operations of organization addressing fatherlessness.

Shoulder To Shoulder, one of the few local nonprofit agencies addressing crime, truancy and homelessness through mentoring at-risk fatherless young boys and coaching their single moms or grandmothers announces Richard Moore will serve as the organization’s President.

Richard has more than two decades experience in the not-for-profit sector. Most recently, Richard served as the Northern California Area Manager for Education First and led the Master’s Commission Urban Missions Institute in São Paulo, Brazil.

“We are thrilled to be able to add someone with Richard’s experience and passion for helping at-risk youth to the Shoulder To Shoulder team,” said Shoulder To Shoulder Founder Bill Coibion. “As an organization, we are committed to helping the unprecedented number of young boys in our inner cities growing up without fathers. This seldom discussed social issue is having a devastating impact on our schools and jails. In Richard, we believe we have someone who is focused on breaking this debilitating cycle of fatherlessness.”

Shoulder to Shoulder, headquartered in Del Paso Heights, is committed to addressing fatherlessness through a mentor program that equips urban youth for life, enabling them to become well-balanced, mature men in their family and community.

In his role as president, Richard will oversee day-to-day operations of Shoulder To Shoulder and lead the organizations latest initiatives and outreach programs.

“Leaving a legacy to the generations that follow us is one of the most important things we can do in this lifetime,” said Richard. “Shoulder to Shoulder’s unique ability to focus on the cause of homelessness, crime and education dropout rates, aligns with my passions to help address our community’s deepest needs. I am thankful for this opportunity to transform the lives of disadvantaged young boys.”

Richard, a native of San Jose, California, earned degrees in Biblical Studies from Northern California Bible and Organizational Management from Ashford University. Richard is a distinguished author, having published with his wife, Jocelyn, The H Factor, a book on Corporate Social Responsibility and Employment Engagement.

Not only devoted to helping youth and the less fortunate, Richard and Jocelyn have seven children: Randi, Aravis, Debora, Rebekah, Adriana, Sean and Christopher; and four granddaughters. Richard enjoys international travel, global friendships, reading, yoga, journaling, camping and spending as much time as possible with his wife and children.

Founder and CEO, Bill Coibion, will take on an advisory role in Shoulder To Shoulder to assist with the transition. He will focus his subsequent efforts on developing initiatives to encourage and equip men in our region to become Christ like servants in their homes and area churches and model being a Godly husband, father and community servant to his children, family, friends and many others.

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Thank you for standing in the gap on the BIG Day of Giving!

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Because of you who gave in the Big Day of Giving…

  • more young fatherless men will experience life transformation
  • more mothers will be proud of their young men
  • we will continue to break the cycle of fatherlessness
  • you will have played a part in creating a better tomorrow for our communities

“There is no greater joy nor greater reward than to make a fundamental difference in someone’s life.” – Mary Rose McGeady

Please continue to support us in prayer, in person, and financially! Help us continue to love and mentor the youth of our inner cities!

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STS and The 100 Black Men Of Sacramento Form Historic Partnership

Shoulder To Shoulder (STS) just recently signed an important and historic Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) with the 100 Black Men of Sacramento (100BMOS). The 100BMOS is one of Sacramento’s leading organizations dedicated to improving the lives of Black families with a special emphasis on young at-risk boys.

STS’s new partnership with 100BMOS will help both organizations expand their capabilities to mentor and support fatherless boys in the Sacramento region. Under the terms of the MOU, STS and the 100BMOS will be coordinating and supporting each other’s programs and the 100BMOS will be providing mentors from their membership to work with STS’s mentoring operations.

Speaking about the historic MOU, STS Founder and CEO, Bill Coibion, stated, “We are very excited about our new operational partnership with the 100 Black Men of Sacramento whose membership is comprised of many great leaders in our community and we look forward to working together to improve the lives of young boys in the Sacramento region”. Franklin Jackson, President of the 100BMOS, stated, “Our organization is delighted to be able to partner with Shoulder To Shoulder because of its proven ability to transform the lives of fatherless boys and its long-term dedication to the needs of the inner city”.

As STS seeks to expand its partnerships with various organizations through its newly-created affiliate, “The Fathering Coalition”, more support is needed to help us expand our outreach and mentoring efforts. As the Big Day of Giving approaches on May 3rd, please consider making a generous contribution so that we can continue on our mission to break the cycle of fatherlessness in Sacramento.

To make a donation, please click here.

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